Good Monday to You All!
Saturday night, myself and some of the Encore Event Staff were lucky to be part of an incredibly fun and successful wedding. The staff and I all agreed that one of the best parts of the night was how engaged and fun all of the guests were. Certainly, it didn't hurt that our clients were INCREDIBLY cool/fun/amazing people, and it stands to reason that their spirit was infectious to their guests (and the DJ was awesome...just sayin').
Normally this blog is angled towards providing a bridal couple some sort of wedding tip or advice. This morning though, as I was still basking in the glory of the wedding from the weekend, I got to think about what it takes to be a good wedding guest. Obviously there are some minimum expectations of every wedding guest like: RSVP on time, don't skip the ceremony, don't over-drink...but what about some things that make you a really GOOD wedding guest. The following are some thoughts that I collected from some past clients and other wedding professionals about the traits of the best wedding guests.:
Don't Complain to the Bride about ANYTHING. Ever. Look, why disrupt a bride's perfect vision of the night because the filet wasn't cooked exactly they way you like? It's not your night. Look, there are a million reasons why the service might not be to exactly your liking, or your seat wasn't as close to the front as you hoped, or the DJ couldn't play the song you wanted to hear... but the bride doesn't need to hear about any of it. Let her walk out of her night thinking that is was "perfect" That's all every bride wants. No one invited you there to play critic. Smile and tell her it was an awesome night.
PARTICIPATE! This is a biggie. Are you normally a wall-flower? Better fake it for the wedding. The wedding couple will plan a bunch of events and activities they are hoping will be fun and engaging for the guests. Make sure you get involved! Is the bride throwing a bouquet and you are single? Get out there! The DJ encourages you go join the couple while they cut their cake? Do it! Sign the guest book! Use the photo booth! Do not be the reason that a bride is disappointed because something she planned wasn't as fun for the guests as she hoped.
Get up and Dance! If a wedding has a band or a DJ, then I don't care how bad your moves are, get out there and shake something! Bands and DJs are big investments in a couple's wedding budget. A bride is going to dream about her wedding being one of those magical nights with a never-ending, epic, dance floor! Don't let her down. You're not always going to hear your favorite genres or songs at every wedding. Again, it's not your night. Make it awesome for the guests of honor by making the dance floor packed. Have a cocktail for courage if you need it, but don't be lame.
Put your Phones Away. Sure, it's OK to tweet a quick selfie from the dance floor or to snap your own shot of the first dance, but otherwise...phones down. Nothing will make you look less interested in someone's wedding day then by burying your face in a screen.
Don't Pull a Bride and Groom Away from Having Fun. A wedding can be a lot of work, stress, and expense for a couple. The day of the wedding, there are going to be a lot of demands on their time: pictures to be taken, people to greet, formalities to handle, decisions to be made... a lot to do! They are going to be desperately looking forward to the part of the night, after all of the formalities, when they can have a cocktail and party with you, their friends and family. Don't pull them off the dance floor or out of conversation for a picture they didn't request or to say goodbye if you are leaving early. Let them relax and enjoy. There will be plenty of appropriate times early in the event to get a picture with the happy couple, use those times...don't wait. If you want to thank the couple personally for inviting you to the wedding, then wait for the end of the reception. A bride and groom will expect to wait around at the end of the night to see you off. If you just have to leave early, then send a nice letter, or even email, telling them what a great time you had and that you didn't want to take them away from the fun they were having to say goodbye. Someone made a big investment in the wedding. Let the couple enjoy some it!
Here's to hoping that we are ALL good wedding guests!
John Roach, Agent of Awesome